Think back, WAY back .... you there yet???
What is your first wedding memory? Were you a flower girl in a relative's wedding? Did you go with your parent's as a family to a great big fun party with a lady in a white dress?
My first memory was my uncle's wedding. I was probably about 10 years old, and my brothers were 8. My Uncle was my mom's youngest brother, and my favorite Uncle (still is in fact). My mom and Dad were both in the wedding. I remember being in charge of the guest book table. I think I remember wearing a pink dress, but it may have been my mom where the pink dress. It was so much fun!
I know that there were other weddings before (because my mom has told me stories and I have seen pictures). There were definitely weddings after, many in fact since my mom has a big family. I am willing to bet that many of you have similar memories.
So why is it that brides today want "Adult Only" receptions and "no one under 12/18/21" (whatever the age may be)?? Do we brides forget about our earliest wedding memories? Do we get wrapped up in the "perfection" of it all, that we think kids will ruin the atmosphere? I actually saw a comment about a bride worried kids would get kool aid on her. Really??? HOW??
Obviously there will be kids at our wedding. Little A and Miss G are the first kids on the list of course. The other kids are mainly our friends' kids. Most are around the same age range as my children, with a few toddlers and babies mixed in. For guests that have asked I tell them it is up to them. If they want a night away from the kids that is fine. If they want to make it a family night, that is fine too. I just need to know a number.
We plan to make a kid table, covered in white butcher paper with cute little kiddie bags. I found the bags at Target, 3 for $1 in the perfect shade of blue. With the back to school sales I have hit, I have crayons and blank doodle pads. I also got a box of bubbles at the dollar store so the kids can have fun with those. I plan to plan FOR them, so they have a nice time as guests too. I expect there to be kids running around in the yard and on the dance floor. I am sure some may have to leave early. There maybe a few spills, or a cry here and there. Really is it gonna matter? Does it make me less married? Nope! Not at all. It is just reality.
Hello, my name is Ms. A and there will be kids at my wedding.